Passion makes a person stop eating, sleeping, working, feeling at peace. A lot of people are frightened because when it appears it demolishes all the old things it finds in its path. No one wants their life thrown into chaos that is why a lot of people keep that threat under control, and are somehow capable of sustaining a house or a structure that is already rotten. They are the engineers of the superseded.
   Other people think exactly the opposite;they surrender themselves without a second thought, hoping to find in passion the solutions to all their problems. They make the other person responsible for their happiness and blame them for their possible unhappiness. They are either euphoric because something marvelous has happened or depressed because something unexpected has just ruined everything.
    Keeping passion at bay or surrendering blindly to it, which of these two attitudes is the least destructive?
                                                                               Culled from ELEVEN MINUTES by Paulo Coelho
 

WOW!!! I just had to share this story! CONTINUE.....

My name is Dayo. I’m a typical Nigerian guy and I cherish my Fridays a lot; I get to hang out with the sickest guys every Friday night and secondly, It’s another escape from my nagging and boring wife. I get confused sometimes on whether she’s my mother or my wife. Don’t get it twisted; I love her pieces. It just gets complicated; like I wish we never got married…marriage has turned her into something that doesn’t amuse me. I wish she was still the adventurous, charming, high spirited lady I dated for five years.

A lot of people say its unethical for married guys to be found in a club, but I wish everyone won’t be too quick to judge and understand that people look for fun to run away from their problems; they just want to breathe, like me.

I forgot to say that I work in Guarantee Trust Bank along Lekki, I love my job and my job loves me, maybe its because I’m the senior banking officer. Lol. This particular morning, a lady breezed into my office. My heart raced faster because I had not sighted anything this beautiful in a long while. She wasn’t the typical slender Barbie, in fact, she was a bit chubby but her smile, cuteness and…I was tripped.

“Hi Good morning! Your ATM has swallowed my card!” She laughed, unlike a typical customer that would ram you.

I just tried to form Boss laughter…

“Good morning, You know what? I’d personally make sure they get it out for you, but not today. Can you wait till Monday?” I smiled

“GTB shaaa! OK, can I just drop my number so you could call me up or just text when its ready so I don’t come twice? Please? My name is Nancy” She blinked her eyes in a funny way.

“Sure” I smiled

We exchanged numbers. What a lucky Friday!

So it was 10:00pm and I headed to the club…as usual my friends were chilling for me. My wife had called a couple of times, I just ignored it. She knows I’m never home Friday nights.

“Look at you!” I heard someone say. I raised my head and it was the ATM lady-Nancy.

“Wow, look at you too!” I was surprised to see her but I was happy I didn’t have to wait till Monday to see her again.

“Happy Friday!” She screamed because of the noise, “Wanna dance?”

I didn’t even have the chance to answer, she already pulled me to dance floor. I really suck at dancing but she helped me; she was a great dancer! I had fun! At some point we decided to go to a private area and we talked, ranging from work, business to personal life. I tried to hide my ring as much as possible, I certainly didn’t want this to end now.

“You are a really wonderful lady. You are so interesting…any guy would want to be with you all day” I said.

“I wasn’t always like this but I have learned the hard way that life is just too short to be sad” she sang

Then her phone rang…

“Hey baby! Yeah I’m at the private lounge, I’d like you to meet someone…alright boo” she talked excitedly as usual.

I was in shock until this tall handsome man walks up to her and kisses her.

“You were late. Meet Dayo; I met him this morning, he’s helping with your ATM I told you got swallowed and Dayo this is my B to the O-O,” she laughed “Meet my husband Kolade, we only come here to dance every fortnight Friday; away from work, stress and kids.”

“Wow, a pleasure” I managed to shake him

Then she stood now excitedly holding her husband’s arms.

“Why don’t we invite Dayo for Mimi’s 16th birthday tomorrow?” Her husband said

They have kids too? How long have they been married and they look like a couple just dating!

“Silly me, please come for my second daughter’s 16th tomorrow. It would be an honor” She brought out an I.V from her purse.

I began to feel so ashamed of myself…this was another guy like me, getting it right with one woman.

I collected the I.V and promised to be there.

“See you tomorrow! Have you had something to eat Kolade?” she talked and dragged her husband along.

They left and I kept staring at the thin air like I had seen a ghost. They come just to dance together every fortnight Fridays? Why didn’t I think of that! Temi loves to dance…she also likes long walks, she loves to talk…she loves jazz music, there’s this vivid picture I have of me putting her hand on my chest when we danced at a jazz club on our first year anniversary…I found myself typing all the things I knew Temi loved to do on my Ipad and I realized I had denied her of all…I had made her the old woman she acts.

What the hell was I doing here! I didn’t even tell my friends goodbye, I walked out of the club into my Jaguar. Temi’s call came through and I picked at first ring.

“Temi?” My heart raced

“I know you are not coming home…”

“I am, stay up so we can gist. Been a while” I decided to do everything on that list and to even add many more for the rest of my lifetime with her.

“Are you alright?” She was shocked I suppose

“And I’d like us to go for a birthday party tomorrow. I want you to meet this amazing couple”

“You sound different Dayo”

“Maybe I’m different”

“Don’t say it! don’t say it! when you come we will gist very well” she laughed

She laughed!!! In just that laughter that I hadn’t heard in a while, she sounded like the lady I married six years ago…

Dear reader,

I wrote this natural piece just to remind us that creating memorable moments with our partner matters. Do you know that little things are the sweetest things? Just creating time to gist and laugh with your partner, having a day in the week that’s exclusively for you both-No friends or kids allowed.

Lady, when last have you told your partner he is so darn hot? Guy! When last have you told your lady she is the sweetest thing? When last have you whispered ‘Thank you’? When last have you been quick to say ‘I’m sorry’?

Do you even have a clue on what your partner loves to do?

When you ignore little things, they are the little pieces of rocks that build up to become a mountain you can’t easily break down.

Pay attention to little things, believe that they work and experience new bliss!

Someone read my last article and said he never knew I was all lovey-dovey,I honestly wish that is what being lovey-dovey feels like. The problem about me is that I can analyze the best way love should occur ,the rules to keeping love afloat, the fact about the honesty of it. Trust me I can do all the analysis and give the best advice but when it comes to me opening my heart to love,that's like the end of the road. Love is one of my greatest fears, the whole idea of having to surrender your heart to someone completely freezes me. I do not even trust myself enough with myself let alone someone else entirely. You can say I am completely screwed up or maybe a mental case but the truth about it is that I know how to love almost perfectly,I have researched over and over,found all the right notes but the idea of letting my guard down TERRIFIES me. I love when its just me having to love myself but I wake up each morning and I pray to find love. The love strong enough to consume my guard, the love that will say to my heart "I may not love you perfectly but I will love you just how you deserve to be loved". Besides that, I also pray not just to love but to love without fear.

Confusing word called LOVE......

There are 3 major topics that troubles me; the will to love completely,the will to trust and the ability to accept people the way they are. All 3 of them are intertwined...
*How can you love someone without being able to trust them?
*How can you love and trust someone without being able to accept them just the way they are?
*Are people supposed to change in order to make their partners feel better and love them more or are their partners supposed to love them more despite their short-comings?
*Are people supposed to love their partners despite their short-comings even if they do not trust that they deserve it?
*Are people supposed to just love,trust and accept whatever bullshit they get from their partners because of fear of the unknown?
* Are people supposed to love,trust and accept these short-comings but still complain about it every other day without the intention of leaving?
* Are people supposed to remain in relationships out of love and no respect?
* Are people supposed to say "I love you" and not be able to say "I trust you"?
* Are people aware that you CANNOT trust someone that does not love you neither can you trust someone you do not love?
* Are people aware that someone who will not say they love you and yet abuse your trust????
Trust is love;they abuse your trust,they abuse your love. Nobody has ever been able to trust who they do not love,TRUST IS HEAVY. You cannot accept someone you do not trust so you must learn to love them enough in order to trust them.
One should never be afraid of the unknown,the unknown will probably give you love like never before.
The will to love completely is the ability to trust and accept notwithstanding the short-comings because only God can give us selfless and perfect love.
Nnamdi-Okagbue Chibuzo

I am that voice that will pierce your heart. The voice that would not judge but bring you to the reality of life. The voice that will ask the unrealised questions. The voice that will speak such soothing words to your soul. The voice that will quench your insecurity and your low self-esteem. The voice that will bring you to the realisation of the equality of all man irrespective of positons or wealth. The voice that will preach justice. The voice that will arouse common sense in your brain. The voice that will critically distinguish between "De jure" and "De facto". The voice that will give all supremacy to the maker of everything in existence. Yes I am that voice and you will listen to my voice when you search for me.

The Beauty Of A Corn Field

I never begin an article with a title but for this particular article i got the title before i got the real inspiration.
We all know how a cornfield is arranged and the seeds are planted inorder for the corn to grow but the irony of it all is that although the seeds might be planted at the same time probably by different people it doesn't necessarily mean that all the seeds has to produce good corn. In the field there has to be the good and the bad, the bad corn doesn't mean that the rest of the field has to produce good corn maybe because of the timing or the fact that its the same seed maybe from a particular source. There has to be the good and the bad, although they all come from the same source and were germinated together it still doesn't matter because what is good is good and what is bad is bad, what will be good will be good and what will be bad will be bad.
I hope at this point you still don't think am talking about an actual cornfield. If you do then make reference to the things around your life and try to stop all the false assumptions you have sometimes.
Nobody is perfectly good but we all fall under one of the two parts; THE WEAK AND THE STRONG.

A MESSAGE FOR MY FELLOW NIGERIANS

We must learn to be strong despite the vicissitudes of life.
We must learn to pass through the trials and challenges of our everyday life.
We must accept the betrayals and heartbreaks of life not because we are determined to
revenge but because we want to move on.
We should be steadfast in prayers especially for our country and our leaders.
We should be happy.
Though the present state of our country is shaken, we must have faith.
We should have unshaken faith.
This might be the time for bad leadership but we must be patient for good shall supercede bad.
But, we must also have individual change of hearts for tiny drops make a mighty ocean..
Besides all these, we must have fun and be happy for we are BLESSED.

The memories of you are too much to be remembered in this lifetime alone. As u lay to rest in the bosom of the lord today, u will forever remain in the lives of all the people you have touched in different ways. You will be in my heart till i breath my last, am so glad you brought out time to see me before your passing and am sorry i was upset for different stupid reasons. I will miss you every second of my life.

ETERNAL REST BE GRANTED TO YOU AND PERPETUAL LIGHT SHINE UPON YOU.
REST IN PEACE.

With My Heavy Heart....

I have never known the pain that comes with death till now, its something so strong and extremely unbearable, in my heart of hearts I honestly do not know how am gonna leave with this kind of pain. I don't know how am going to smile everyday and never think of the pain I feel in my heart, I don't know how am going to be myself again. I don't know how am going to wake up and not see your face or hear your voice in my head. U didn't even stay in my life for a year but I know how much you mattered for the little time you stayed with me. You were just an unavoidable mistake and am glad I let that mistake happen because it has made me to understand the real meaning of appreciation. For the first time in my life, this is one pain that music cannot heal. You will remain in my heart forever but I beg that you give me the strength to be stronger than this. I miss you.

DEATH

All my life i have never known the pain death can bring, i have never known that the loss of a loved one is like a scar that will never go away. Yesterday i lost someone very dear to my heart and i know for sure that this pain is something very difficult to live with for the rest of my life. I lost someone so full of life, someone so warm and welcoming. Chuka how can you die???? You promised to come back after the wedding only for me to hear that you are no more. How can i continue to live with this unbearable pain? How can you not come back? I desperately need to hear your voice again, i need to know that you are ok wherever you are... I need to know how and why God decided to take you away from this earth, am sick and tired of everybody telling me that God knows best. What is there to know????? My heart is bleeding and breaking,am asking myself if i have the strength to live with this pain forever and i know its gonna be extremely hard.... Your memory will continue to live on in my heart.

ADIEU CHUKA OKEKE!!!!!

THE DAWN OF A NEW YEAR

Thank God for making it possible for each of us to make it alive to see 2011. This year is going to be the year of more good than bad,the year of more laughter than tears, the year of more smiles than frowns.... Its going to be the year of massive breakthrough,the year of great accomplishments, the year of justice,the year of experiencing true love, the year of nothing but the best. 2011 is going to be our year of unending testimonies. Have a lovely year and never forget to keep God very close to your hearts so you can experience his great and merciful love. Have a blast this 2011. PEACE!!!

It will be well with our country Nigeria very soon..... I have always suggested that all the present leaders need to be killed and buried since they are of no use to this country. They have decided to sit down with folded arms,finish our money and gamble with our lives but soon enough redemption is going to come for Nigeria... Redemption is goin to come and wipe the tears of the masses and we will have good roads,good health care, constant light, sound educational system for our children. Its not a crime if Nigeria is a well-functioning country,we deserve it because we are highly blessed. Honestly,am not expecting that leaders should not steal but if you want to steal,steal after you have worked and done something remarkable with your position... We deserve better than what we are getting. Its d 31st of December 2010 and two bomb blasts have already been registered,please what does this say about our country???? Its a sad story indeed,a very sad one at that.

We need to be mindful of the friends we keep, we need to make sure that such friends are also friends to others before we let them be friends to us because in the real sense,there is no guarantee that the person that is bad to other people will be good to you. A bad person remains a bad person, we need to be watchful. The company we keep really tells a lot about us so we need to be careful of the people we keep as friends. We should note that we would never completely know a human being so we should be careful of what we say to them, they might use it against us someday, they might turn the table around and call us BACKSTABBERS. Inasmuch as we might meet bad people in life,there are still the good people,the true friends that don't change as seasons change, people that will always have our backs at all time. We should not be blind and not notice the good ones when they come around because they are few and we should grab them as they come. We would never meet perfect people because everybody has their different imperfections so we should also learn to appreciate their failings aswell. We should note the difference between a bad person and a good person..... We should always be on alert. Have a wonderful 2011. God be with you.

WHO ARE YOU?

You have to live a life where you should forget about the pains, betrayals, heartbreaks, gossips and injuries of yesterday but live on all the good tidings of today. If you are living a life where you conjure all the pains of yesterday then your tomorrow is being limited based on your choice because you simply do not want to be totally happy. You should learn to forget yesterday's pains no matter how bad it might have hurt you and learn to live for today.
Who are you to conjure all the pains of the past??? If God can forgive and forget, you are nothing but the tiniest of grains compared to him. So stop being a fool and stop pretending to hate total happiness when you know you love it.
Just try to lighten your heart so you can be totally happy and you should rather conjure all the good tidings of your life and see what massive difference will be made.
Are you the person that eats up your happiness or the person that fetches unending happiness?

I NEED IT BACK AND I NEED IT NOW

Its been almost forever since i had the capability to use it....I need it like crazy, it once made me feel like mt whole life was complete despite all the problems that i encountered with each day that passed me by, it made me strong and it gave me a kind of courage that is so rare to come by, it was there, it was there indeed..
At a point, things began to change from good to bad til it got to the point that i knew nothing at all...I let it all slip away, i let ma abililty to use my capability slip away, it went far, so far away.. I did not not even notice its absense till i was recalled back from my fruitless sojourn and i had to look around and see what life really meant to me, then i realised that what i had was not what i was supposed to have, asmuch as it hurt, i let it all go away...
I got my ability back and am alive again....

NOTHING NEW BUT THANKS.

The new year began ages ago and i didn't think to say hello and deliver my long note of prayers, thanks and encouragements. Nevertheless you were all in my thoughts and i definitely had all the prayers and thanks in my head.. I might have left you for awhile but i have very much been around watching and hoping i get responses. Since there has been none, i decided to keep with other things and still hang around somewhere.. I got admission to school so everything has been busy and very stressful but its all good and am glad am alive.. Nobody needs me for now so i'll be gone alittle while again till i have the opportunity to be with my lovely and gracious readers, but if there are none, i will be here as always...... PEACE!!!!!!!

The Dance Of Life

A good dance partner must make many accomodations. Sometimes the music speeds up or slows down, and she must follow her escorts lead into a different dance step. Sometimes the dance floor gets crowded, and he must maneuver them out of a tight spot. Sometimes he will delight her with a dip or turn, or guide her towards the punchbowl for some refreshment. It's never the exact same dance twice in a row.
On the dance floor of life, there are times for us to settle down and get serious and there are times when we should lighten up and take a break. There are times for spontaneity and times for discipline and fidelity to routines. There are times to savour the moment and times to move on to something new..

SERIOUS QUESTIONS

oWhat do you really enjoy doing most?

When do you feel the most fully alive?

What are you doing when you lose track of time?

Do you like routine or variety?

Do you prefer serving with a team or by yourself?

Are you more introverted or extroverted?

Are you more a thinker or a feeler?

Which do you enjoy more - competing or cooperating?

These are questions that you should ask yourself because it will help you discover yourself more than you know..
PEACE!

STILL CHECKING

Life has been kind of good to me and with me because i have been happy and my lovely friends and family has been around me to keep making me happy.. I am not completely happy because i haven't heard from anybody but maybe it's just a matter of time sha. I am still smiling and sticking around waiting for who has anything to share with a shoulder as broad as mine. I used to send some of my articles to a lady that had a page on Punch Newspaper and i loved that because people would read my stuff and send me lovely mails of how i helped inspired some things they did, it made me satisfied.. I actually believe that i was born for the people, to help change how bad they feel and give them the hope they forget they possess. I wish i could still continue but she usually gets loads of articles and i hate to be an added burden.. I decided to continue from here and see what the future holds for me and my people that are troubled. So send your troubles and distresses to me and i promise to give you hope. I actually got to know about blogspot through one of my idols, Funmi Iyanda. My brothers couldn't have more of me always saying, "Abeg open Funmi's blog for me to read what's new". I still check on her besides having my blog since am not much of a dustbin person.. I am still somewhere waiting for you guys to check up on me... Till then, PEACE!!

NEW HOME

Hello people, i have always dreamt of having a media where i can be able to interact with different kinds of people and am pleased to be a part of this new home. I know everybody likes to see what celebrities have to say but am no celebrity and i hope you just see me the way i am. I love to write different kinds of stuff, it could be funny, silly, naughty but i assure you that they are always true.. I hope that you like what you read. I basically write about myself in inspiring ways so it can add a little something to anyone who reads it and seriously, you won't regret it. I love helping people that are in situations that they become confused and don't know what to do.. Anyways, i hope to hear from someone sooner than i will expect. For now, i just hope you were not too bored because i promise to give you much more as time flies, afterall everyone is different on their first day of anything................................CHEERS!